When Your Loved Ones Hurt– What Do You Do?

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When Your Loved Ones Hurt– What Do You Do?

My daughter had broken up with her boyfriend and was bawling. When I saw her swollen eyes, my heart broke as well. I said to myself, Why not try the NLP technique on her? If it failed, at least I had tried — and my reputation would be intact because no one would know.


My daughter had broken up with her boyfriend and was bawling.When I saw her swollen eyes, my heart broke as well.



After a brief prayer, I asked her, “Catherine, would you like to be relieved of this pain?” She looked at me with bewilderment and said, “Of course, Dad.”

“I just learned an NLP technique that will accelerate the healing of painful memories. There is nothing to lose. If it works, then you’ll feel better and have a better choice to overcome your hurt,” I said. (Hmmm, she will be my first patient.)

She must have been desperate enough because she agreed to the crazy ideas of her dad. I asked her to close her eyes so she could concentrate — and I could read my notes.

Honestly, I was doubtful it would work. And not knowing the steps by heart, I had to take my notes in my hand and I did the steps on her while reading my workbook.

After going through the process, I asked her, “How do you feel?” She said, “I still feel the same. It still hurts so much.”

My heart sank. Under my breath, I said, “I knew it. It doesn’t work.” I went back to my workbook. It said that if it doesn’t work the first time, I should do it again. So I asked my daughter to relax and try harder to follow the steps.

I did it a second time.

And this time, I noticed a change in her facial expression. I asked her again, “How are you?” and she said, “Wow, Dad, I truly feel relieved and not as sad anymore. Thank you!”

The following morning, she felt a lot better and was almost her bubbly, joyful self again. It really worked!


The next day, Catherine asked me to talk to her friend, Michelle, who had also broken off with her boyfriend. Michelle was still feeling terrible about her breakup even after many, many months.

Will this be my specialty? I wondered. Will I be a heartbreak doctor?

She told me, “Dad, if it worked for me then it should work for her too.”

“OK,” I said, wondering what I had gotten myself into.

She pulled me to her room and, to my surprise, her friend, Michelle was on Skype. (We were in Jakarta and her friend was in Manila.) I murmured to myself, “Gosh, only my second case and I have to do it online?”

But I really wanted to help. And since this was my daughter’s friend, I did what I could.

After chatting for a while, I proceeded with the session.

After a few minutes, I was amazed that I could see Michelle’s face change even just through Skype. After the session, Michelle said, “Wow, Uncle, I’ve never felt this much peace in the two years since our breakup.” I couldn’t believe it. My heart was leaping for joy just seeing what had happened right in front of me — to a person many miles away.


Wow, uncle, I’ve never felt this much peach in two years since our breakup.



I asked Catherine to keep checking up on Michelle. I was still skeptical and thought that the effect might wear off. But it didn’t. Michelle continued to be at peace. Days after, weeks after, months after. Just like Catherine had also gotten rid of her pain.

My success with Catherine and Michelle made me a believer and drove me to be bolder in doing the NLP techniques for other people who had painful memories.


“A new heart I will give you, and a new spirit I will put within you.” (Ezekiel 36:26)


maya sulpico

March 26, 2016 at 5:18 pm

I had been trying the NLP technique form your book Awaken the Doctor in You for me to have a better sleep. It really worked! But I have this very painful event that happened to me that manifested already in my work place. I am one of the Head Teachers in one of the public schools here in Pasig. I was abused verbally by our principal and it affected me so much. I cant really move on, It affected my confidence as if my personality was stripped off (nahubaran ako ng pagkatao), my self esteem was so down to the point that unconsciously, I started adapting that kind of treatment to the teachers in my department.I am doing my best to stay on track, to have and keep on reminding myself that I should not do that but I keep on losing my way back! some of my teachers and friends started to stay away from me. It seems all of my decisions are all wrong (domino effect) . Im not this kind of a person but it seems Im starting to fall into pieces. I am also praying hard I am doing my best to help myself. WHat can I do? Please help!


    May 22, 2016 at 2:17 am

    Hi Maya,
    so sorry! we just read your message.
    send us an email message to [email protected]. We can arrange an NLP session through Skype to help you with your situation.

ruben bautista

November 8, 2016 at 2:13 pm

how can i have your workbook ?

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